Going through a divorce in ideal circumstances is challenging enough, but when you have to break free of a narcissist, you may have to navigate a high-conflict situation.
Narcissists tend to feel self-important and superior to others. Your former partner may try to manipulate or intimidate you throughout the process. To make it through your divorce, there are some extra steps you may want to take.
Record everything that you can
Narcissists tend to lie often. They will not only lie to you but they may also lie to the court. Document everything, including emails, texts and specific incidents. Track the dates of various incidents or communications you have with your former spouse. Try to keep copies of every important document that you feel you may need to prove your case.
For example, a narcissist may try to keep your kids from you. Keep record of any incidents involving your spouse and children and any proof that he or she lied about you.
Limit your communication
Be careful about how much you speak to a narcissist. Narcissists can use your emotions to their advantage. Keep record of attempts at communication and harassment. While you may feel tempted to respond to harassment, do not. Many narcissists feed off of the attention and response. If you do not limit communication, your ex may try to seize the upperhand financially. Use a professional third-party to speak between the two of you.
Do not put yourself or your children in danger for your ex-spouse. Consider an emergency protective order if you feel threatened.