Your divorce will take its toll on everyone involved, especially your children who will experience a major shift in family dynamics. Supporting your children through this tumultuous time will require awareness.
There will undoubtedly be a lot of challenges for you to handle along the way. However, making the effort to put your children first can drastically minimize the negative repercussions they experience because of your divorce.
Speak respectfully about your spouse
Differences between you and your spouse have ultimately resulted in a split. While you may have your grievances, make it a priority to only speak respectfully about your soon-to-be ex in front of your children. Remember, the person you speak of is still your children’s parent. Your awareness might prevent a lot of heartache, confusion and sadness.
Refrain from oversharing
Given the intensity of a divorce, you may feel your emotions boiling over at times. It could be difficult to control your feelings and the content you share with those around you. However, refrain from oversharing sensitive details with your children. Keep explanations to their questions age appropriate. Tell them only what they need to know and use care in when and how you speak to them.
Think about your children’s future
Despite the changes in your family, you still need to think about the future on behalf of your children. Divorce creates an opportunity for your children to learn resilience. According to The Mayo Clinic, you can facilitate resilience when you openly acknowledge change and discuss its benefits for the future. Help your children make goals. As a parent, consider who will pay for college expenses in the future and how to share that obligation despite your split.
Your approach to handling divorce while raising children can have an instrumental impact on the ability of your children to adapt and thrive.