When most people think about domestic violence, they picture a female victim. This common perception creates a dangerous blind spot in our society.
Men experience domestic abuse more frequently than many realize. But sadly, they often suffer in silence due to shame, disbelief or lack of support.
Silent problem of male domestic abuse
Expectations about masculinity can make men feel embarrassed to admit they face domestic abuse. But that’s not all. Many may also struggle to identify their experiences as abuse.
There is a misconception that as a man, you should have the strength to physically overpower your wife or female partner. That’s not all—many may also struggle to identify their experiences as abuse. These ignore the complex power dynamics in relationships.
It’s true that psychological tactics are a common of abuse against men. However, statistics also show that one out of seven men experience severe physical domestic violence from their female partners.
How domestic shows up beyond physical abuse
For many male victims, the abuse often leaves no visible marks but cause deep emotional, mental or psychological wounds. Some examples of non-physical domestic violence include:
- Constant criticism, humiliation or belittling, especially in front of others
- Threats to take away children or pets
- Excessive control over finances and spending
- Isolation from friends and family
- Threats of self-harm to maintain control
Such tactics create powerful control mechanisms. These can trap men in abusive relationships regardless of physical strength differences.
Breaking free starts with recognition
Yes, husbands and male partners absolutely experience domestic violence. More importantly, you can receive the same protection and support as any female domestic violence survivor.
You can get a restraining order. You may also file for divorce to leave the painful past behind and distance yourself from an abusive partner. Remember, California law safeguards all domestic violence victims, regardless of gender.